Rising to the Occasion: Tips for Overcoming Public Speaking Anxiety at Weddings

Posted on Friday, 27th October 2023 by Matt

So you’ve got a wedding speech on the horizon, and the mere thought of it has you more nervous than a cat at a dog show? Fear not! Everyone’s been there, trembling at the idea of addressing a crowd, especially at such a significant event. But with a few tricks up your sleeve and some mental gymnastics, you can conquer that pesky public speaking anxiety. Ready to dive in? Let’s crack on!

1. Understanding the Jitters: Why Are We So Scared, Anyway? Public speaking is daunting, no doubt. But why?

Our brains are wired to protect us from perceived threats. In the ancient days, getting ostracised from your tribe could mean death, so we naturally fear public shame.
It’s vital to understand that this fear, while real, is rooted in outdated instincts. By recognising this, you’re already on your way to conquering it.

2. Preparation is Key: Know Your Words, Not by Heart, but Close Enough As the saying goes, failing to prepare is preparing to fail.

Draft your speech well in advance. Write like you speak to keep it natural and avoid sounding robotic.
Go over it multiple times but don’t memorise word-for-word. Know the flow, the anecdotes, and key points, so even if you miss a sentence or two, you can still carry on without anyone noticing.

3. Visualise Success: Picture It All Going Well Your mind is a potent tool. Use it!

Spend some time each day visualising your speech going splendidly. Picture the laughs, the claps, and the proud pat on the back afterwards.
This mental rehearsal not only calms nerves but also primes your brain for the real deal.

4. The Power Pose: Channel Your Inner Superhero Body language is powerful, not just for the audience but for the speaker too.

Before your speech, find a private spot and assume a 'power pose' – think Superman or Wonder Woman. Hold it for two minutes.
This simple act can boost confidence and reduce anxiety. Sounds daft, but give it a go!

5. Practise with Pals: Get Feedback, Make Adjustments Your mates can be your secret weapon against nerves.

A few days before the wedding, gather a small group and run through your speech.
They'll give you constructive feedback and the practise itself will make you feel more prepared.

6. Deep Breaths and Pauses: Oxygen is Your Buddy Oxygen does wonders for the brain and helps combat anxiety.

Before and during your speech, take deep breaths. It calms the mind and ensures you don't speed through your words.
Don’t be afraid of pauses. They give you time to collect your thoughts and lend weight to your words.

7. Avoid Caffeine and Alcohol: They’re Not Your Pre-wedding Pals Sure, a little Dutch courage sounds tempting, but it’s not advisable.

Caffeine can enhance anxiety. So, if you're already jittery, that cuppa or energy drink might not be your best mate right now.
While one might think a shot would ease the nerves, alcohol can muddle your thoughts. Keep the bubbly for the toast!

8. Engage with Your Audience: It's Just a Chat with Friends (Because It Is!) Shift your perspective about the speech.

Instead of viewing it as a formal address, think of it as sharing a story with mates. Because, in essence, that's what it is.
Smile, make eye contact, and engage. People are more receptive to someone who seems approachable and genuine.

9. Acceptance and Kindness: To Yourself, Above All Lastly, and crucially, cut yourself some slack.

Even seasoned speakers make mistakes. If you stumble or forget a line, carry on. Most won’t even notice.
Remember, everyone’s there for the same reason: to celebrate love. They're on your side, cheering you on.

So, there you have it, mate! With these tips in your arsenal, you'll be set to rise to the occasion and deliver that speech with confidence and flair. It's all about the mindset, preparation, and remembering to breathe. And always keep in mind, at the end of the day, it’s a celebration, not a performance. So, chin up, deep breath, and let’s smash it! 🎤🥂

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